Hey all. It’s been a really long time. I haven’t even checked to see when the last post was, but as the youngest kiddo is about three now, I’m guessing it’s been nearly three years. I hope you’re all well and taking care of yourselves.
So I’m not actually sure I’m restarting this blog. I’m not sure what I’m doing at all, if I’m being frankly honest with you! I’m just thinking about the future and what it might look like.
The older my kids get, the more I think about how bizarre social media has become. Look up whatever studies you like, but as many promises there were that people would be better connected, it seems that people are isolated, depressed, lonely, and divided. I still maintain a Facebook page, for instance, but I think about ditching it because there’s usually so much negativity over there. I don’t blame my friends, I don’t blame the people I follow. It’s just the way things are. Political craziness is at the top of my list and I’ve seen it divide families. Whaddaya do though? People are people and are free to make their choices. Shaming them on social media doesn’t do anything productive.
To bring it back around to the kids, that’s not the future I want for them. I would love for them to go play with their friends, go play in the yard, and go play with their parents. I’m pretty bad about spending too much time on my phone when I should be paying attention to them, and I know that I’m not the only parent out there with that issue.
There’s a guy on the radio I listen to who won’t let his kids get on social media. I think they’re tweens/teens. I think the guy on the radio is right. You can’t control whether your kids set up an account at a friend’s house, but you can control some aspects of their interaction with technology by setting good boundaries and expectations, and having conversations about the reality of things.
For example, my kids know that terrible things happen in the world. They know that terrible things are happening right this very moment to Christians in places like Sudan, North Korea, Myanmar, Iran, and so forth. We pray almost every night for our brothers and sisters in these countries. We talk about that stuff. We talk about how to handle bullies. We talk about how we can be better people. I apologize when I lose my cool and say ridiculous things that I wouldn’t have said if I’d gotten enough sleep or slowed myself down enough to understand what’s going on.
My kids have great manners, because they know it’s the expectation. They also know what to do when they screw up, because I teach them from the Academy of Parental and Human Mistakes.
They know I love them.
Anyway, I think I’ve gotten off-topic. This is something of just a stream of consciousness, me puking out words into a digital bucket.
I don’t know whether or not to tell you to expect more posts here. I know that I prefer a medium like this to Facebook, so maybe that’ll be what happens, but maybe I’ll set up something somewhere else. Either way, it’s time for me to make a change. There are topics I’ll want to discuss that probably aren’t appropriate to a blog about parenting kids so the chances of me setting up something else are pretty reasonable. I’ll link it here if I do.
If you’ve made it this far, thanks for reading. Thanks for being on this journey, such as it is. I know you have enjoyed reading about my kids, and that makes me smile.
Be free, friends. Go enjoy yourselves this weekend and tell someone you love that you love them.